Like I explained in my last post, step one is always awareness…now let’s delve a little deeper…

This is it.  Here’s what’s keeping you stuck.  This is what is preventing you from moving forward in your relationships, family life, work, finances,  level of health and fitness, spiritual enlightenment….and in your life.  We all have it.  We unintentionally pass it down to our children and to our grandchildren.

Chances are…your children are operating from a lot of the same baggage that you are.  It’s all a bunch of LIES!  My intention  is to shed some light on some of the big ones.  I will touch on some of my baggage, where it came from and my journey in moving past it.

Baggage is heavy stuff and if we drag enough of it around, it really can prevent us from moving forward in our lives. It’s not easy to let it go either.  It becomes a part of you, of your identity.  My experience was that when I did finally let some of it go…I immediately felt lighter and free… but soon after,  I felt scared.  I was lost without the bags to hide behind…without the excuses.  I actually ended up picking some of it back up in order to feel more secure.    It’s a process, albeit not an easy one, but nothing worth doing is ever easy, now is it??

It’s up to us to stop the cycle. So let’s wake up and find the biggies, so that we can pulverize them before they have a negative impact on future generations.  They’ve been called limiting beliefs, sunglasses, stuff, baggage…it matters not what you call it…just that you learn to recognize it when it comes up so that you can choose to let it go!!

I’m not important.  I don’t matter.  I don’t make a difference.

A lot of us hold this belief, often from an emotionally or physically abusive relationship in our childhood….

Being an extremely quiet and shy child,  I picked up this belief when my parents and other family members talked over and around me.   In fact, they actually gestured toward me and told others to ignore me, not to “worry about me”.  If they were telling inappropriate jokes they’d reassure people not to worry that I was there because  I wouldn’t “get it” anyway .

You may have listened to your parents fight, or overheard arguments when you were in bed at night.  Perhaps you wondered, “don’t they know I’m here?” Soon you decide that you must not be very important, that you don’t matter.

I’m not good enough

Many of us pick this one up if our parents were constantly correcting us;  correcting our words, actions and behavior, or if they were always coming to our rescue, bailing us out… They may have inadvertently given you the message that they didn’t trust you enough; that you weren’t good enough or smart enough to solve your own problems or to figure things out on your own.

I’m not smart enough.

Here’s another of mine.  I remember overhearing my parents joking to others that I was  “a little dense.”  I was quiet and extremely shy and I often did not laugh at jokes that I thought weren’t funny….but I was teased that I didn’t “get the joke”.

Perhaps a teacher constantly marked up your papers with big red x’s and corrections.  If you struggled in school and were picked on or if you were labeled in school or put in the “dummy class” you could easily have adopted this false belief.

I don’t know enough.

I’m not strong enough.

I’m not attractive enough.

I’m not worthy.

There are many others…and a myriad of ways we could have picked them up.  We KNOW they’re all lies…right??  Well, based on results, we still buy into an awful lot of it…sad, but true.  For now, you would do well to identify your baggage.  Which are the biggies that are holding you back?  Do you know where they came from?  How can you prevent your children from adopting the same beliefs?

When you identify some of your baggage you can get creative about how you plan to release it.  Pick up a couple of big rocks that represent your “baggage” and throw them off a cliff,  write the lies down and burn them, change them to a positive affirmation that you will repeat over and over until you begin to believe it.  For example, instead of “I’m not worthy” , I started repeating:  “I deserve to be loved the way I want.”

Find your baggage, claim your baggage and then let it go.  You and your children deserve to be baggage-free!!

♥ “Each time I see beauty I am reminded that I am beauty. Each moment I love another it is because I am love. I am aware and conscious of how seeing and feeling the good in the outside world brings about my inner connection with who I really am. ” ~ Nick Ralls

♥ “There’s not been a single day in your life when you’ve been anything but magnificent. Every day you move mountains, touch lives, and perform miracles. Every day you’re a success, a hero, and an example. And every day you change the world.” ~ unknown

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You came here looking for advice on how to motivate your kid(s), so here it is.  The first step is always AWARENESS. You must first recognize and appreciate what you have.  See your precious children for who they are and for the amazing gifts that they have brought into your life and into the world.  You must, as your belief in them is the most essential step in motivating them to become all that they can be.

Everyday we encounter children, teens and adults who we can see have incredible potential, but seem to be wasting their life away, settling for so much less than they are capable of, doing just the minimum to “get by”.  I know a few of them, some very personally.  Don’t you just have the urge to reach out and shake these people awake?  and to ask them…”what ON EARTH, are you doing?” Or,  here’s a great question:  “What, IN GOD’S NAME, are you DOING??”  And if they say “nothing”…you say…”Why not?”  If they say “I don’t know” - you say “Don’t you think you’d better figure it out?”  In fact, act as if humanity itself depends on you figuring it out!  What if it does??

So…What is it you are really here for?  How are you meant to be USING your talents, gifts and abilities to be contributing to mankind?  I will tell you this…search and you shall find…and yes, often more than you bargained for.  And once you figure this out for yourself, you are much more highly equipped to assist your children in doing so.  In fact, when you acknowledge and use your own talents, you will begin to see the talent and gifts shining through in all others.

The thing is, you really don’t want to motivate your kids!  Motivation is external.  Motivation fades over time.  You want to inspire your children.  If you believe in them strongly enough, if you show them everyday, in every way; through your thoughts, words and actions, how amazing and gifted they are (be sure to be authentic here and KNOW what their true gifts are) and teach them that they have an important purpose….you can help them to release the negative thought patterns and the emotional energy blocks.  Things will begin to flow–ideas will flow– one after another, and they will become inspired…inspired to do more, to become more, to meet your expectations. Be patient yet persistent.  Your unwavering belief in them will eventually translate into a belief in themselves. That belief in themselves, may just prove to be enough to get them motivated to take action!

What, in God’s name, are YOU doing? Why not Start today!  Show your children what it looks and feels like to USE your gifts in service to humanity.  That is your purpose for being here.  Unfortunately, until you get motivated to discover and live your purpose, it’ll be difficult to inspire others and get them motivated to do the same.

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